Break the Mold – Forget New Year’s Resolutions! There Is a Better Way

Lessons Learned for the New Year

Lessons Learned 2019 to 2020
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Try something new this year.

Review 2019 for lessons learned.

Find out where you are, so you can decide where you want to go.

An honest evaluation of 2019 can give you a clearer perspective on your life and how to move forward.

Look Back and Learn!

Set aside a day — or at least a few hours by yourself, and take an inventory of your life in 2019.

Complete the exercise with no filters — just look at what happened and find the lessons learned.

Let your thoughts flow freely and write what comes to mind.

Let each question sink in, sit quietly with your thoughts, and with an honest, open heart write down your answers. 

1. What were the three most important things that happened in my life last year?

2. What worked and what didn’t?

3. Where and when was I at my best?

4. Where and when was I at my worst?

5. What are the most valuable lessons learned?

6. What did I do to improve myself personally and/or professionally?

7. In what areas of my life did I move forward and where did I backslide?

8. Who did I spend time with? Were they good choices — or not — and why? How did they add value to my life? How did I add value to theirs?

9. Are there toxic people in my life that I should let go of? Who and why?

10. What is the state of each of my important relationships? What can I do differently to improve them?

11. Overall, did I use my time wisely — Why or why not?

Moving Forward

You should now have a clear picture of your life over the past year.

Based on your evaluation of 2019, what are the three most important things you want to accomplish in the New Year?

1. __________________________________

2. __________________________________

3. __________________________________

Five Basic Rules to Follow for the New Year

1. Focus on yourself and the person you want to be.

2. Keep it simple; make it fun; enjoy the process.

3. Make changes in small increments — start small and take it one step at a time.

4. Keep a record (a journal) of your progress — make an entry every day. This can be a formal hard copy journal or notes in a file on your computer (which is how I do it).

5. When you get off track, get back on.

There you have it!

Make 2020 the best year yet!


Additional Reading:

Find Your Dream Job and Understand What Happiness Means

Article: How to Develop Better Habits, by Ryan Holiday

Book: Atomic Habits, by James Clear


NOTE: This Story was originally published on MEDIUM, but has been deleted from that platform.